What They Don’t Tell You™
Truth, tools, and support - without the gatekeeping.
Empowering you to be seen, heard and safe.
Abuse isn't always where you expect it
It can hide in your home, in your workplace, your school, your friendships - even in online spaces.
It can be loud and obvious.. or quiet and calculated.
But one things is always true.
ITS NEVER YOUR FAULT, AND YOU'RE NOT ALONE
"Where Are You Right Now?"
No matter what stage you're in, there's a next step for you
Spot The Signs
Learn the hidden signs of abuse, coercive control, and systemic failure.
Plan Your Move
Safety planning, boundary setting, and understanding your options.
Get Court Ready
Protection orders, court prep, and decoding legal language.
Reclaim Your Future
Healing, identity recovery, and long-term support.
Why I Built "What They Don’t Tell You™"
Most people only learn to spot the obvious signs — yelling, threats, bruises. But abuse is often much quieter. It hides in control, silence, and the systems that fail us.
Whether you’re facing workplace coercion, bullying at school, a toxic relationship, or post-separation manipulation — the tools here are designed to help you recognise abuse, protect yourself and your children, and rebuild with confidence.
I’ve been on both sides: 15 years as a Senior Sergeant of Police, and as a survivor of domestic abuse and coercive control. I know what it feels like to be told “there’s nothing we can do.”
That’s why I created What They Don’t Tell You™ — so you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Practical, Real World Support
From spotting red flags to rebuilding your future, you'll find tools that work in real life.
Learn the signs before they escalate
Free guides and resources to help you spot hidden abuse in relationships, workplaces, schools and online
Keep your kids safe, supported and heard
Tools and guidance for parenting through abuse, preparing children emotionally, and navigating child safety and custody
Plan your exit and protect yourself legally
Step-by-step strategies for leaving safely, dealing with police and courts and getting the right legal protection in place
Rebuild your life after abuse - without fear or shame
Nervous system resets, confidence rebuilding, and programs to help you create healthy boundaries and future relationships
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I'm not sure I'm in an abusive situation?
You don't have to label it to ask for help. If something else feels wrong, we'll explore safe options together - no pressure, no judgement.
Can I get help if I live outside Australia?
Yes. While my legal knowledge is Australia-based, the tools, strategies, and frameworks I use are relevant worldwide. Many sessions are delivered online.
How do you keep my information safe?
Your privacy matters. You can use a code word, safe email, or anonymous name. I don't share your details, and your decide how and when I contact you.
Is this only for women?
No. Abuse can affect anyone. I work with people or all genders, ages, backgrounds, and roles - survivors, parents, professionals, and allies.
What if I can't afford paid programs?
You'll find free resources, guides, and community support here. If you need more, we can discuss flexible options to make sure you still get help.
What happens after I download a free guide?
You'll get the guide instantly. You'll also receive optional follow-up emails with extra tools and support - if you choose.
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